The Dream Revisited

Publishing old saved drafts….

from July…although hauntingly still true.

Long ago and far away I spent my summers wandering the streets of Bucharest playing with street kids, finding babies in back rooms of crumbling, stifling Soviet bloc hospitals. These summers defined me and it was here the dream was born to be a really excellent activist and pediatrician who could save babies from disease and from the poverty and stigma that they live under.    Then somewhere along the way I got caught up in a dream to study at a world class childrens hospital and caught up in all the academic rigmarole and danced the dance and sang the songs and won my way into a place that is so far removed from the  that dream that sometimes I still wake up and have to remind myself that I am not living in an alternate universe.

I am bruntout on the alternate universe. I am tired of staying up all night. I am tired of parents telling me they want me touch their children with my inexperienced, tired hands. I am tired of getting e-mails in my box that I only reviewed 9 systems in my review of system rather than 10 and the ED attending can’t get paid if I only have 9 in my note. I am tired fighting to put checks in an imaginary series of check boxes to fit some sort of magical mold that an elite pediatric resident is supposed to fit. And I keep waking up with a start because in my dreams I am doing what I have done every summer for the past 7 years up till this one, riding buses and fighting for forgotten children.   Suddenly in stead of falling in love with academic medicine or fellowship or something will give my pre-existing condition gimpy self sustainable health insurance I am missing as if I have lost my first love. As if we are painfully separated by a dream not deferred but given up and revised.

Confessions, awkward prayers, awakened possibilities

Well I told someone exactly how I feel in terms of being a bad evangelical.

It was not my pastor. It was a kind man about my parents’ age who is also a bad evangelical who runs an intentional community.  I am not quite where he is, in that I am pretty sure he simply sees Jesus as a moral teacher. But I so greatly appreciated his story, his life and his willingness to listen to my story.

He told me that he had built his career as a missionary and now has very little to show for it because now he has evolved into a liberal that is no longer accepted in evangelical circles.  His biggest advice was to not end up that way. It will be different from me as a physician but still very good advice.

Literally 15 mins after that I sat in a strange yellow room on a sofa saying I wanted prayer for the choices I had to make.  Two things were abundantly clear to me in that moment.  This guy who is my pastor really doesn’t know me so well and well as a result its awkward. And then I also realized that while he and I on paper have similar theology, our application of that theology is completely different.  I handed them my reference form and ran to PT.

So I stand in the middle of these two extremes.  And for now that is ok.  The reality is for now I am a liberal evangelical and I am ok with that.

Confessions

I don’t like Mark Driscoll.

I like Rob Bell including his new book. (not that new any more.)

Although I don’t think either of them are heretics or the end all of preachers.

I don’t really love Campus Crusade in fact it makes me cringe.

I don’t like George Bush all that much.

Although I don’t think Obama is the end all and be all.

I think women can be ministers. In fact some of the most influential ministers of my life are women.

I dont hate gay people.

I actually have very little in common with other white middle class 20 year olds who grew up in evangelical homes. Who Knew?

Growing up looking different makes you think different. Living in the lowest caste in society for periods of time (Eastern Europe) makes you realize most of us dont get a lot of choice in the cards we get dealt socioeconomically.   Trying to pretend like this didn’t happen to me is like being in high school and trying to fit in. I just can’t do it anymore.

I am not sure what I was thinking when I moved here and joined my current church but I think I was high on the novelty of a new adventure and didn’t read the fine print.  But now 18 months in, I realize, what the heck was I was thinking?

The timing is insane….I am in the mist of applying to mission agencies.  I need references. But I can’t live the lie any more.

So Monday, I am going to try something different, something very similar to the direction the community in NC I was a part of was going.  Its just dinner.  Near my home with people who like Jesus.  People from all walks of life, I can promise you I will be the only doctor although perhaps not the only disabled person.

And I am hoping that I can be a part of a faith community and have some integrity.

As for my references….Im not sure what to do yet. I am praying about it.

Pray for me.

No really, I want to leave and by leave I mean…oh snark it

So its here the first global health application….

and I panicked.  I am also ill with some RSV like illness.

Suddenly in the last week, I have looked around realized I have it made.

I have a brilliant mentor who has actually succeeded in founding a clinic in one of the most violent neighborhoods in America that is celebrating nearly 20 years.  Not to mention his work in Africa. Not to mention, he actually seems to think I am great.  He is sending me to Malawi this July.

I work at the best childrens hospital in the world. No really….people come from EVERYWHERE to be here.  Every day we have applicants who are interviewing dying to come here. The learning here is amazing, the teaching opportunities are amazing.

Today I went to see my uber boss, to ask about writing a program director letter for me for my fellowship applications.  He hugged me and said “I brought you here….of course I will write you a letter for whatever you want.”

Yes its cold here, yes its on the wrong side of my beloved mountains, yes people here look at me funny when I say “yll” but by golly I don’t think leaving is what I want.

I want to go to Africa but I think if I could have my cake and eat it too. I want to be a fellow from here.  This is where I want to represent.

…..never mind that the fellowship only exists on paper.  And there is no actual money set aside.

I can dream, can’t I…

Evangelical FAIL

The other day we were doing what residents do best. Fantasize about having a better schedule.  Our colleague BOB seemed to have won the jackpot, he had the last two weeks of Dec off and then an extra five days including News Years for a family wedding.

JANE, another colleague says, “I think BOB got that schedule because he had JESUS on his side.”

I laugh and said, well I go to the same church and it didn’t work for me.

JANE and JOAN stare for a moment.

JANE says, “I didn’t know you were an evangelical”  But she said it in such a way that it was like I didn’t know you smoked or I didn’t know you throw rocks at puppies on the weekends…..

“UM, well yeah….maybe a bit more laid back.” I flounder wanting desperately to explain I didn’t love BUSH, Im a pacifist, I haven’t bombed any abortion clinics, I watch trashy TV sometimes, I read Harry Potter and yes in my less thoughtful moments I use off color words I learned from my naval heritage.

JANE smiles, “Yeah, well I love Bob, I was just joking around.”

Then one of us got paged.

….two weeks latter….

Two weeks later I am out with GABI who I have been friends with for a while but whom I find myself having a series of deep and more personal conversations with.  GABI tells me she is something akin to gnostic. She impressed I know what that means and we start talking world religions. I am holding my own.  Then she comes right out and says it:

“So you love Jesus? You’re a Christian?”

I explain that in all my studies what impressed me the most was the incarnation that God would come down and live as we do to provide a vehicle to get us out of a spiritual life the equivalent of a TO DO LIST which we could never complete  and that its all about the relationship with GOD that we can have through knowing and believing in Christ.

This question was easy.

It was the series of next questions that I found myself sweating a bit.

“So how do you feel about missionaries?” (which is a big question if you look at historically and currently) (or as I like to say do you mean in the JOSEPH CONRAD’s HEART OF DARKNESS sense?)

I start with HEART OF DARKNESS and colonialism and move on down to my own experiences. I end with saying what I believe in the context of a relationship is quite different than the HEART OF DARKNESS sense.  She nods and talks about how Church NGOs do a lot of good.

“So do you think, Christianity is the only path to heaven? DO you believe in a literal hell?”

(these are loaded questions: If the answer is YES and YES you are condemning 5 billion humans on earth today to hell).

I believe in Christ (note that I separate Christ and the gospel from Christianity which is a human construct) is the truth and the path. However, I don’t really know how it all works out.  Only God truly knows people’s hearts and knowledge.   As for Hell, Milton and Dante seem to know a lot more about it than I do because other than a parable or two in the Gospels and some heavily loaded metaphor in Revelation, Hell is not described in detail in scripture.  I know it will be separate from GOD which sounds terrible but in the spiritual sense not so much the physical sense.

At this point, GABI who is also a physician interrupts me and says “When I think of Hell, I think of homeless schizophrenics at war with their selves and living cast off from any sense of human contact.”

I nod, who knows, maybe HELL is like that.  I continue…

As for who goes to whatever it is, well again GOD only knows.   The party line Billy Graham crusade answer is that its a punch ticket kind of thing, you go through the right prayer, life style change or whatnot and you get the right ticket punch. Over the millennium Christians have  made up all kinds of ideas of  loopholes. Babies for example apparently are innocent so if they die, its OK they get to go without a ticket, developmentally disabled people too (a babe in Arms kind of ticket).  These babe in arms kind of tickets are made up, they are not in scripture, we don’t know what happens.  Now, do I honestly believe that God sends babies to Hell?  My understanding of God is somewhat different than that, so NO I don’t believe that. But I don’t how it works.  So do I believe that folks in some dark jungle who never heard about Dante or JESUS go to hell?  My church peers would say that’s on us to some degree for not going as missionaries.  Do I think God will send them to hell?  Again I do not know.  I don’t know what that looks like.  I also don’t know exactly what will happen to all the people pre-Jesus. I don’t know.  SO do I believe people, go to hell, YES but I don’t know who or where or what exactly it is.

As for Heaven, some believe the Kingdom of God will come to earth over time as we build it, some believe we will go to it.  I think the former is ambitious and maybe a bit impossible but I think the Gospels are pretty clear about trying anyway. While I am interested in hell, I am far more interested in what we do now to mirror heaven and spread its seeds in the mud and mire of the hellish elements of now.

I explain as well that while I believe in things absolutely, I live with mystery in my faith, of unanswered questions and gratitude to a GOD who is big enough to be mysterious to my human mind. I live with unanswered questions, with faith and I am OK with that.

My friend seems impressed.   We drank our tea and then we go home.  I think she expected me to start reading Romans out loud and pray the sinner’s prayer and give her a tract.  Because I am evangelical, right?

As I go home that night, I think what would my friends from church say if they listened to this conversation? What would BOB say? What would they say if they heard me admit that I don’t have all the answers?  Would they have done the same?  Some would have, but I think most would have stayed within safety of the party line where we have the answers.  I think they would think that I lost my religion.

Am I failed evangelical?  Have  I gone native in all my intellectual quests of reading the Koran, the Mormons, the Buddhists, the Baptists, the Skeptics and the Gnostics, dissecting the layers of culture, history, human creativity from the raw text, from what we call religion?  Do I believe in nothing because I “tolerate” and analyze everything?

NO.

I do believe in something, actually its quite akin to what I believed when I told my parents I wanted to be baptized when I was five before I knew about all of the other stuff we tacked on to the truth.  I believe in the love of a GOD who would love me even though I hit my sisters Emily and Tori every day and some times wish I could go back to being three when I was an only child.  A GOD who created the trees, the deer behind our house that left footprints in the snow, my cat, the moon, the stars Daddy taught me the names of, a GOD who created an elaborate plan to love me  me despite the my wrongs. The plan included sending someone he loved like I loved my parents and my paternal grandparents (and mostly Emily and Tori), a piece of himself who suffered through annoying little siblings and stuff and in the end died pretty awfully  and somehow in something that seemed at the time a lot like magic came back alive to get the rest of us before he went ON so we could all still be friends with God.

GABI says her husband and I have little girl and boy souls, we still believe the same as we did when we were children.

I would say that’s actually quite biblical and I am OK with that.

What has changed somewhere between church camp and now  is that the religious brainwashing has melted gradually over the Serengeti grasses, my ferocious appetite for books and reading, the wails of orphaned, neglected Romanian babies, long nights of organic chemistry followed by ethics and human rights essays in college and blood dripping off my gloves, sweat and tears running down my face as I beat on a child’s chest trying to save their life, I lost my religion.

And found JESUS.