Confessions, awkward prayers, awakened possibilities

Well I told someone exactly how I feel in terms of being a bad evangelical.

It was not my pastor. It was a kind man about my parents’ age who is also a bad evangelical who runs an intentional community.  I am not quite where he is, in that I am pretty sure he simply sees Jesus as a moral teacher. But I so greatly appreciated his story, his life and his willingness to listen to my story.

He told me that he had built his career as a missionary and now has very little to show for it because now he has evolved into a liberal that is no longer accepted in evangelical circles.  His biggest advice was to not end up that way. It will be different from me as a physician but still very good advice.

Literally 15 mins after that I sat in a strange yellow room on a sofa saying I wanted prayer for the choices I had to make.  Two things were abundantly clear to me in that moment.  This guy who is my pastor really doesn’t know me so well and well as a result its awkward. And then I also realized that while he and I on paper have similar theology, our application of that theology is completely different.  I handed them my reference form and ran to PT.

So I stand in the middle of these two extremes.  And for now that is ok.  The reality is for now I am a liberal evangelical and I am ok with that.

Me and My poor quality of life are going upstairs….

I have been in 7-8/10 right hip pain post-call for about a month and half.

Yesterday was Grand Rounds and I was post call. It was on chronic pain in connective tissue disorders….NO REALLY it was.  I slumped in the back, ate my oatmeal and hoped that sleep would overtake me quickly. It was all fun and games while the geneticist gave an explanation of connective tissue disorders. Then the rheumatologist went on about Fibromyalgia and JIA.  I drifted in and out. Then the psychologist got up to talk and went on about chronic pain and patients (our) poor quality of life.  And how much they (we) feel persecuted in the hospital when they come seeking meds and how they pass up activites they would otherwise enjoy and then how there is a higher rate of suicide. They went on to talk about new research studies that were ongoing looking at day hospital treatment for chronic pain. and cognitive therapy.

I sat there in the corner in my imaginary white coat (I never wear one, it scares kids) and shook my sleepy head at this. Its all fun and games until someone misses the point.  Maybe part of why we have a higher rate of suicide and “poor quality of life “is not so much our pain but the medicine we use to treat it. And medicine in the literal and larger sense.

What if instead of taking our chronic pain patients out of society and out of school to be in a day hospital program, we find ways to help them engage in life? What if instead of giving narcotics like candy to our sickle cell population, we tired alternate methods or we at least stop complaining about how they are addicts because WE (the doctors WE) gave them their addiction!! What if we stop trying to make pain less depressing and find ways to make life more worth living? What is our goal, be pain free, or be living our lives?

I agree grand rounds friends, chronic pain is a mind game.

But its some what clear to me that you have never played.

Chronic pain is a series of choices.  Difficult choices. Defining choices but choices never the less.  Every day you wake up and you decide what rules today?  My life or my pain?  Do I fit my pain around my life or fit my life around my pain?  You can tiptoe around on eggshells and slip and fall or you can run and not look back.  You don’t choose to live with pain but you do choose to live to the fullest. TO live with joy. To live with gratitude.

Doctors, all the study show we are actually quite bad at understanding what “quality of life” means to our patients so maybe we should listen to them.

I rolled my eyes and my wheels and took my poor quality of life upstairs to rounds and helped save some lives. Then I went home, had a mug of tea, a long bath and a nap. I woke up and read a book, went to bible study, came home and finished the book.

Like I said me and my poor quality of life…..

The ivory tower has a view

Occasionally I stare down from my ivory tower of my home away from home… my premier world famous childrens hospital into the rainy streets  below and ponder the ironies of where I stand.

I am among a very friendly, although intense community of young physicians who inspire me and challenge me.  They also want to do things like a be a pediatric heptatologist when they grow up or a palliative care/hematologist/oncologist or be a cardiac ICU doctor.  They are impressive and are being groomed to have impressive careers.  Occasionally I get caught up in the mist of it and try to play the game  but win or lose I find myself looking down at those streets and thinking about how different my life will look in 10 years than nearly every other graduate of my program.  Sometimes I don’t know how to fit my career goal into some sort of acceptable academic mold. (Although if I was really trying to FIT IN maybe I would give up the TIE DYE t-shirt collection on call…and actually WEAR my white coat).  WHen people ask me what I want to do with my life….the expression on their face when I say global health doctor is something akin to shock or a sad smile as if to say “We’ll see how long that lasts….”  Then there are my recent attempts into the array of ACADEMIC global health which is just like what it sounds…. a complete paradox. So far it also seems like a mess….its like combining developing world bureaucracy with academic medicine bureaucracy which make s system that makes Africa time look like a New York minute and Eastern European bureaucracy look like excellent customer service… In T-minus 24 months I am supposed to have a plan. I am supposed to live the dream and all that jazz. In a year I need to be turning in applications for either EM or a mission agency.  This is it…this is what I want to do with the rest of my life…but who knew the rest of my life was only 24 months away and who the heck knows how to get there….

Then there is the typical double agent-ness.  Although its been a really good year in terms of my life as a patient. Its a calm before a familiar storm.  The steroid shot is buying me time.  How long is yet to be determined but if I have another winter like this past one I don’t think I will want to go through a third.  So despite the fact I haven’t taken the green machine to work in two weeks, I know I am simply riding a false high that will eventually bottom out most likely sometime like the middle of PICU or worse my first month as a Sr in the ED and force me to come to grips with despite two years of magic I still have a chronic illness and I am facing another life altering 6 months of a massive surgery that will most likely per usual live me with a hgb of 7.5 followed by mild hysteria over how can I work 7 days a week and go to PT 5 days a week and keep my health insurance….so that I can pay for the monstrosity and live to tell about it.  Its most likely going to happen before I graduate.    I may be the doctor now but that does not give me a immunity. I also cant help but occasionally despite how different here is than back home in terms of patient/family care….chiming in with the other half of my life on rounds….and finding everyone staring at me like I have three heads when I suggest we introduce two of our patients close in age and with the same type of cancer…. FOr the love….we can get their parents’ premission first…I am not crazy I just happen to have be a agent from the light side (for we all know that the doctors are part of the DARK SIDE )…on second thought I will go back to updating discharge summaries….ignore me I just work here…

Compassion Found

I am back on the wards after two months being elsewhere. I read back over my last post and marvel at the burnout I had three months ago.  Its not all gone but its better.  I smile at children again, I savor the little things and I am in awe of all that we can do with our seemingly infinite resources with medicine here. And more than anything I care again, I have found my compassion and my heart for this work.  I am in month 12/12 of internship, I have 24 days to go and I will be a 2nd year.

I also have  a new house that will one day have a garden and already has a roommate and a dog. The house has big windows, nooks and crannies and secrets it seem that hide amongst its 100 year old walls. Its also a minutes walk from a little Square where there is several cafes, coffee shops, a post office, a library and  a small park with fountain.It reminds me of being in Barcelona or Paris with the square, the occasional street noise reminds me of Bucharest  but my big back yard, my trees and my big windows remind me of North Carolina (the 80 degree weather is helping too). The history and the big porch remind me of my beloved Virginia mountains. Its a prefect blend of my favorite places. For the first time since moving here for residency, I feel like I have a home and am not merely camping waiting for my life to restart again in three years.

I sing of your mercies…..

Transition Epic Fail

So the hip is going and I need a steroid shot. Ideally I would like to go to Baltimore and have my surgeon see me and do it. It takes about two minutes and it works for three months. He wipes the site with a etoh pad, shoots a fluro image, shoots me up and then puts a band-aid on.  Painless, effective and totally worth it.

But I was a good girl.  I made inquires and I found a surgeon right here in town who not only has experience with the injections but has experience with transition cases due to some special interests in perthes etc.   So I move around my life and manage to get an appt yesterday fully prepared to get the shot and be back before my clinic started.  He walks in, comments ” Your left hip looks fine (because a  hip replacement at 25 is totally fine). Your right hip has some deformity and arthritis (YOU THINK?) and yes I can do the shot.”

…in the OR (which means I get to pay for the OR TIME)

……at 7 AM (heart of rounds)

……..and you need a physical (another hour of missed work and ITS A SHOT I am not getting sedated and I AM 26 years old and other than ortho issues I have never been sick a day in my life…I never even had so much as a pneumonia)

………..and you have to come see me “post-op” (and yet another hour of my life)

:::Look of disbelief:::

“I don’t know how your doctor did it but thats howe we do it, its cleaner, more space for the fluro arm. “

(Cleaner…for the love its a shot like a vaccination…lets not make this melodramatic  and SPACE FOR THE FLURO ARM…we have them in the tiny little ORs in Kenya, ok you don’t need much space)

I tried to plead as a resident for a better time….no one seemed to care.  I tried to plead as a 26 yo to waive the physical requirement…he says anesthesia is who makes that call (BUT I AM NOT GETTING ANY BECAUSE ITS just a shot).

it was an epic fail. Failure to understand where I was coming from, failure to understand that the purpose of this procedure is not to relieve my pain ultimately but MAKE ME MORE FUNCTIONAL AND MISS LESS WORK.  Failure to understand that maybe OR time + three doctor appointments would max out my insurance’s patience and put a hardship on my little post-grad budget.

so in the end I am settling for pain patches and an appt prior to flying out to Kenya in Baltimore with a surgeon I trust who will not charge me up to a 1000 dollars for a shot that if I had a fluro arm I could do myself.

heck maybe I can just sneak down into the fluro room at work….at 3 AM no one would notice.

just kidding.